It worked. I talked to her about a year 2020 the one where I celebrate my birthday in quarantine shirt and she said he was doing well on his own. This was twenty five years ago, however, when the cost of living was still easily managed. Sell your home and downsize to a place that is still comfortable for the two of you, but will not be roomy enough for your kids. While you are at it, think about how nice it would be to not care for a yard, and get that condo. I am retired and live in a house with a yard. I can anticipate a day when it will be too much for me to care for. Wish I had moved to something more simple years ago. Now I have so many aches and pains, the idea of moving is daunting.
My brother and I put old family photographs all over her 2020 the one where I celebrate my birthday in quarantine shirt, including her grandmother, her parents’ wedding picture, each of her childrens baby pictures and each of our wedding pictures, a photograph of my sister getting her PhD, photographs of her grandchildren, etc. A few times she didn’t stop, and I did hang up on her, even though I felt like a terrible person for doing it. Once, she was in my car and I was driving up to lunch to be followed by getting her a manicure when she started complaining. I warned her. I told her I would take her “home for lunch” rather than continuing our outing. She kept complaining, so I turned around and took her back to Assisted Living and escorted her to the Dining Room, got her seated and left. I think I cried afterward. The therapist helped me with the guilt. The one time I was speechless, was when she was talking about one of her nieces, a child of 6 years.