I don’t think that’s right and Dr Seuss I will teach P .E. here or there I will teach P .E. everywhere shirt. Let’s at least calculate what was your wine and back that out of the bill before we split the check amongst everyone. Her eyes opened wide and the table got quiet as everyone turned to look at us, and then she said of course! I’m so sorry! I never realized.” She was obviously embarrassed at her gaffe and very apologetic. And that was the end of that. Since then, she orders a separate check from the beginning and our friendship is intact. I don’t hold this against her, we all have our faults.
In hindsight, Dr Seuss I will teach P .E. here or there I will teach P .E. everywhere shirt what she did with the intention to stick any of us with the bill (unlike the opportunist guy above who started ordering the drinks). She was just oblivious, and no one had called her out on this before. I found out later that she also has dietary problems and can practically only eat fish, and can’t drink (moderately-priced) wines because they also affect her. Moral of the story: stand up for yourself in situations like these and don’t stay quiet. Political correctness will get you stuck with the bill. Some people, like my friend, are just oblivious, and need to be set straight. Others are users, and need to be put in their place. As for big groups that include people you don’t know very well, I have absolutely no problem now asking for a separate check from the beginning.