I passed this information on to the Harry Pothead Harry Potter shirt. They turned off life support and she passed away, quietly, without emerging from the coma. Next came the cremation, and by this time they were really upset. We decided that as soon as possible we had to get them out of that sort of reality, so we took them for a few hours in the park. And it worked wonders – but very few people outside the immediate circle of the two families understood this. I am still being cricized, and judged, for not bringing her home for a burial, and for allowing my kids to relax their mourning.
I figured that they had had this for the whole of the Harry Pothead Harry Potter shirt. They knew their mother was ill, and they understood I don’t know how, because no one ever told them that we didn’t expect her to survive. I still have friends of ours, mostly friends of hers that haven’t forgiven me for it. A few days later one, back home, they came to me, and told me that it was fortunate that it had been mommie that had died. I was shocked, but curious, so I asked why. And the answer they gave was amazing: “Mommie was ill and was bound to die anyway; if you had died we’d have been all alone”.