I would think the Pizza is my valentine shirt also I will do this experiences of the brutal totalitarian ideologies of the 20th century would be enough to dissuade us from these kinds of things. As they get older, respect their privacy and increased independence and responsibility. Do not invade their room yelling about something opinionated and when they tell you to get out tell them how your money is the reason they live there. Privacy is important, and even more so when the house is small and the walls are thin and the rooms barely lock. Jesus. Privacy is important. The older we are and perhaps when young too, but mostly puberty and adulthood. The dad I have who invaded my doorway and then tries to talk to me when we don’t have a good relationship and doesn’t respect boundaries will get even less respect for trying to invade his daughter’s room. Or son’s or other. The point is, privacy. Is a deal breaker. And can break relationships if there aren’t enough breathing room. Even if they still live with you during their gap year. Is it…. so difficult? Is jail not difficult? Yup, the fight got physical and i physically had to remove their smug face out of my room. And that’s why I don’t wake up early, folks. Have I made this point well enough, I really do hope so. If your mostly responsible kid is telling you to give them some space it’s in your best interest to give them some space. Some parents blindly see their kids as irresponsible for no reason, perhaps thinking of how in their eyes they are still their incompetent kid, I understand the nostalgia and how it can be good, but there are ways it can be used to belittle your kids skills, hope you aren’t using that. We respected their authority and we knew we were loved so much. Setting those boundaries of right and wrong did make us feel safe. We knew we were watched over at all times and knew our friend’s mom’s or others would watch over us and correct us as well. I can remember hearing from adults either friends or strangers, “Respect your elders young lady.” when I got out of line. I guess it was “it takes a village” approach. Our elementary school had a paddle. It was about 14″ long and most of it paddle and not handle. It had holes in it which were scary in itself. It was rumored that the holes allowed the paddle to not have air restriction and it would hit harder.
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I still remember seeing Mr. Fazenbaker, knowing the Pizza is my valentine shirt also I will do this paddle was in his office. I never knew of anybody being paddled but I’m sure it happened if needed. I also made the kids stand by each other with their nose on the wall for fighting that just got out of control. After several warnings, it stops the fighting immediately. Spanking, spoon, nose on the wall were all types of punishment for lack of respect for parents, elders or their peers. When out in a public place like a restaurant, they heard, “Do you need an attitude adjustment?” which was a trip to the ladies or mens room. That was like the spoon for the older kids and even the little ones. Nobody got spanked until 2 years and that was rare. Cause would be hot stove or running out in the street. My son is a pastor and in a collagic ministry and he spanks. He has skipped the wooden spoon and uses his hand. He loves his 3 kids to the moon and back. When you have 3 yr old twins you spank. I’m just old and thought to note about the differences in generations. My own children’s generation, you would never see the kind of behavior as you do today. It has driven teachers out of the schools. They can get other jobs. It is so sad to see it necessary to feel safe and not have profanities constantly hurled at you. The “No spanking or your child can sue you” has ruined our children and that movement has grown to produce a generation that has never matured as they entered college. They were stuck in the temper tantrum stage and never got out. I do have one son that doesn’t spank. He talks to his children and explains things to them. When I did that with him as a teen and I did do that as will as punishment he would just look at me and say just hit me and get this over with. And he was serious. Long talks or trying to explain made him nuts which told me he knew what he was doing was wrong. Of all things, depriving a child of food and water, is not acceptable as a “punishment”. In fact I would suggest that it amounts to child abuse. I would accept in part that they may not be allowed to have a Sweet afters, since children like sweet things; but to send the to bed on an empty stomach in my view is not acceptable. It is a physical punishment more dangerous than striking a child.