Perhaps, like her, they’ll be inspired by a different way of life. “I have a poster from my artist friend Felipe Morozini that says Vento No Cabelo (meaning “Wind In My Hair”), which paints a picture of freedom, lightness, and inspiration that worked like a map to me,” she says. “I wanted to be somewhere where I could feel the Sunflower dog mom shirt but in fact I love this wind in my hair.” What did they find? Across the board, people disliked those with bad hygiene. They took issue with laziness, and those who were needy. They didn’t want to do long distance, they didn’t want people were bad in bed. And if you didn’t have a sense of humor—fuggedaboutit. Standard stuff. Ask Lindsey Metselaar. Founder of the popular dating podcast and social media account, We Met At Acme, she’s known for her signature Instagram story polls, where you vote “yes” or “no”, “red flag” or “dealbreaker,” on a topical dating quandary. (Today’s example: Person you started talking to in quarantine doesn’t wear a mask red flag or deal breaker?) Oftentimes, her followers will submit questions they want her audience to vote on. One that keeps popping up? “People have asked me more and more—when is it too soon to ask someone if they are a Trump supporter?” Metselaar says. And before you chalk that up to a niche sample size: According to an April 2020 Pew Research poll, 71 percent of Democratic daters wouldn’t consider being in a relationship with a Trump voter. That dropped to 47 percent for Republicans considering Hillary Clinton voters. This extends beyond voting records, to many of today’s hot button issues. “People just can’t date someone with opposing views,” says Metselaar. For example: “If I was dating someone that had a platform on social media, or someone that posted stories regularly, and then all of a sudden they weren’t saying anything amid Black Lives Matter? That would be a dealbreaker. ”Then there’s the pandemic and its many paradoxes. (Polls show that Republicans are far more comfortable going to salons, restaurants, indoor events and parties than Democrats are, and that their concerns about COVID-19 health risks have declined overall. But pandemic-era jerks are aplenty, red or blue: New York, a mainly liberal city, had reports of underground parties while in the worst throes of coronavirus. Back in early April, in the midst of the coronavirus apex, my friend and I were chatting about her romantic life. A suitor, who she talked to on the phone but never met in person, kept asking her to come to his apartment for dinner.
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“Ew! It just feels so wildly irresponsible,” she said. “I won’t see anyone I’m not quarantining with even if I think they’re my soulmate! She politely refused, and he ghosted. (A few months later, as restrictions eased, Bumble introduced a feature that helps users navigate this issue, asking users to select which types of dates they’re comfortable going on: “Virtual,” “socially distant with mask,” or “socially distant. Metselaar, too, sees poor quarantine behavior as a common dealbreaker named by her followers: “People are turned off by those who are not socially distancing at all. Or worse not social distancing while living with their parents, or grandparents, and putting their [relatives’] lives at risk.” Anecdotally, it’s true: in June, I’d been idly chatting with a handsome, successful thirty-something who sheepishly admitted he’d blacked out at a house party and then returned back to his family home. “I have that Sunday guilt of you’re better than this,” he said. I stared at my iPhone screen. A day later, he posted an ignorant message referencing the Sunflower dog mom shirt but in fact I love this Black Lives Matter movement on his Instagram story. That, it turns out, was my dealbreaker. They used to say opposites attract. Is that true, in polarized and plagued 2020, where common ground seems to have cratered into a canyon? Where avoiding confrontation and “agreeing to disagree” can actually mean you are complicit in systemic or institutional biases? Suddenly, dating someone with unkempt hair or bad B.O. doesn’t seem that problematic. After all, not wearing deodorant never hurt anyone. But do you know what has? Not wearing a mask. Taken at the Cambridge family’s Norfolk home, Anmer Hall, one shows Prince George wearing a camo t-shirt while on a country lane. In the second, he stands against a wooden wall wearing an earth-tone polo. He flashes a toothy grin at the camera. Over the past few months, the public has seen much of the Cambridge children. For Prince William’s birthday in June, the Duke and Duchess shared a series of loving portraits that showed George, Princess Charlotte, and Prince Louis playing outside with their father. Back in May, for Charlotte’s fifth birthday, the family posted several shots that showed the Princess helping deliver food to neighbors in need during the coronavirus pandemic. Then there’s little Prince Louis and his rainbow finger-paintings for the NHS, which went viral thanks.