My mother has never given me a Yoda learn it you will teach it I shall shirt answer to any question I’ve asked so I have the impression she is lying. That shes hiding something. She stayed with my father although he has sexually abuse me and physically beat my brothers. She knew. She always made excuses for him. Neither one of my grandparents liked my father nor the rest of her family. They didnt know about what really happened in my family until I revealed it in my early 20’s. My grandfather died when I was 10, my grandmother when I was 15. I didn’t find out about the family secret til I was 30. Yes, I felt robbed but I never said anything to her. I kept it to myself.
My mother was on nerve pills when I was Yoda learn it you will teach it I shall shirt. She cried alot. My father berating her didnt help. I get she might have been too scared to leave. When I was on my own, I tried to get her away from my father. She refused to leave, she wouldnt accept my help. She loved to complain but didnt nothing when help was offered. I’ve tried. I’ve had to handle her with kid gloves 90% of the time. You can only do so much for someone until it starts affecting your own mental health. I’ve been to therapy. I have anxiety and depression that I take meds for. My parents arent good for my mental health so I keep them at arms length.