The cycle repeats with the next victim and some realize they were just a prop in the You don’t have to be crazy to Bowl with us we can train you shirt. Years go by, and the narcissist checks back on you. Can the narcissist abuse you again, because that’s a strange compliment for the performance that the torturer earned. People who think they are in love create a fantasy where abuse are shows of affection in addictive forms of lust. So a cloud of denial comes to live directly over you, and can stay there for decades.
I get there and her fence is You don’t have to be crazy to Bowl with us we can train you shirt, very decorative, and she has all these wonderful plants and trees and a little garden. Mind you this is in a very upscale area, lots of money. So we get there and there is in fact a deer in the backyard nibbling away. She demands we go “capture the deer” so it doesn’t starve to death in her back yard. She says the deer has been stuck there for days because she has seen it in the morning multiple times. We shrug, take two steps toward the deer and it sails over the fence and frolics off into the woods. Her jaw drops, and she looks at us and says they can do that?